Originally posted 27/12/2017
2017 is coming to an end and we're getting to that time of year again. You know what I'm talking about...
The time of new years resolutions: of gym memberships, diets, and resolving to finally quit those bad habits (anyone with suggestions on how to stop biting nails, send them my way!).
But resolutions don't have to be all about restricting yourself! They can be fun, encouraging yourself to be adventurous and a way to really make yourself happier in this coming year. This is especially true when it comes to sex. We live in a society where everything seems to be geared around sex, and yet so few of us are actually having the sex we want.
This is your year for giving yourself permission to ask for exactly what you want.
I've put together some suggestions of resolutions to help you on the way, and please comment on this post or on our social media with your own ideas ❤
In 2018 I will...
#1. Try Something New
What have you always wanted to try but have always been to scared to do it? Has the world of BDSM intrigued you? Maybe you've never tried anal stimulation, or using a strap-on? What about role-play? Electroplay?
It could even be something as simple as introducing toys into coupled sex.
Human sexuality is vast and exciting. Think about what is most common in your fantasies when you're masturbating or having sex. The sort of media you like reading or watching. All of this can lend an insight into what you might physically enjoy. Have a browse through our website and see if anything piques your interest.
Many of these things can be enjoyed by yourself, but if you're nervous about introducing new ideas to a partner just sit down and calmly explain what you are interested in trying. Most likely, they too will be excited by the idea of bringing you to new levels of pleasure. Some may feel a little insecure that they alone are not enough for you. In this case, tell them how excited you are to try new things specifically with them. That you want them to enjoy these new experiences too.
#2. Step Up My Masturbation Game
It's the same story every evening. You get in from work, make dinner, wash the dishes, do a load of laundry, and then finally collapse into bed. Your mind's still buzzing so you quickly whack one out to send you off to sleep.
It's great to have a quickie every once in a while, but when this becomes your only mode for self-pleasuring, something's gone wrong. It's important to stay in touch with your body and masturbation is a great way of checking in.
This year, take some time to really spoil yourself and find new and exciting ways to get your heart racing.
A new vibrator is always a great investment. Run it along those aching limbs, gradually circling in on the sweet spot, bringing yourself to a perfect climax. I recommend our Luz range, which comes in a variety of shapes, all in silky soft silicone and luxurious gold hardware. If you struggle to reach orgasm, mains powered wands are actually recommended by psycho-sexual therapists for anorgasmia.
Anal stimulation while masturbating is also great, particularly for those of us with prostates. You'll be amazed at the difference something pressing up against your prostate can make to the intensity of an orgasm.
And of course, let's not forget lubricant! Often over-looked, lubricant is scientifically proven to make sex and masturbation more pleasurable. It's especially important when introducing anal play or if you are on hormonal birth control, as this can often effect the moisture levels of your vaginal walls.
#3. Feel Sexy!
What makes you feel sexy? Is it the gorgeous lingerie you have on under your clothes, the ones know one else knows about? Maybe it's no underwear at all. It could be the kegel balls you inserted this morning. Or the knowledge that when you get home, your partner is going to be waiting for you; gag in mouth and with your whip resting on their lap.
Whatever it is, make time for it in 2018. Make time for sex, make time for pleasure, and most of all- make time for fun!